Messy, vulnerable share ahead 🙂
Our family was fortunate enough to spend a few weeks on vacation, completely unplugged ….
The time together definitely brought us closer as a family.
And part of the closeness came as a result of some messy moments as well 🙂
We went to the Musee du Cinematique in Paris. As we entered and showed our museum pass, the staff didn’t recognize the pass. We had made some kind of mistake with the pass. Between the language barrier and not understanding what we had done wrong, Jami became frustrated (he had spent a lot of time researching the museum passes before we left the states and unbeknownst to Will and me, he was feeling overly responsible and like he had made a mistake. He was actually frustrated with himself, but all that Will and I saw was his outward frustration).
I jumped in to try to calm Jami down, which then made the moment worse rather than better.
Consequently, Will was embarrassed by both of us!
Later that day, Will expressed to us that he was uncomfortable with our “bickering”.
That was hard to hear on many levels, mostly because I knew in my heart it was accurate. I could see that after 20 plus years together, I have settled into some patterns that weren’t serving me or my marriage.
The word “bickering” stayed with me all week. I began to observe myself and my behavior. I put myself in Will’s shoes and imagined how uncomfortable it would be to witness low level bickering between his parents.
His comment “stung” but it also woke me up. It woke me up to the woman that I want to be in relationship. It woke me up to the energy that I want to bring into my marriage and our family. I returned a better version of myself!
I’m returning more deeply connected, more aware, more tender, more sensitive to myself and what causes my reactivity, more sensitive to both Jami and Will.
What patterns might someone observe in you or your significant relationships?
What deeper way of relating is calling you?
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Screens, Screams and Your SANITY: Navigating Technology with your Children
I’m all about creating Soulfully connected relationships.
One of the greatest sources of conflicts in the parent – child relationship is around screen time and technology.
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