February’s claim to fame – or lack thereof – is Valentine’s Day. Just the thought of “Valentine’s Day” can bring up so much for so many of us. So much of how we relate to this day is determined by our current outer life situation …
If you’re not in a relationship, the day sucks. If you are in a relationship and it isn’t in a good place, the day sucks. If your spouse / partner doesn’t acknowledge it in a way that feels good to you, the day sucks. If you have young children, chances are they’re making Valentine cards for every child in their class. There’s nothing that puts a damper on the love, more than trying to stay patient while your child makes 30 valentines ON A DEADLINE 🙂
Such a disempowering energy for a day that is devoted to love!
What if, instead, you invested this entire month to SELF love? We can’t control what comes to us from the outside, but we can 100% cultivate SELF LOVE in our lives. We aren’t taught this language in school, but the language of Self Love is the most beautiful, intimate, connecting language you’ll ever experience.
In my humble opinion, Self Love is the ultimate romance language!
Imagine, when you make a mistake, hearing yourself say to yourself, “Don’t worry, Self, every body’s learning”. Or when you are experiencing a long term challenge, “Take all the time you need, I’m right here.” Or when someone in your life is upset with you, “It’s okay, I see your good intentions”. Or when you just can’t seem to get it together, “You got this. I believe in you”.
Now, imagine saying these things to your child? This is the language of love that they are longing to hear from you. The more you say these types of loving things to YOURSELF, the more fluently you’ll speak it to your children.
If you want to deepen the connection you have with your children, your spouse or anyone in your life, begin to observe the quality of the way your love yourself … or don’t love yourself. You’ll begin to see that the way you love others is a reflection of the way that you love yourself.
Commit to transforming the way that you love YOURSELF and watch your relationship with your children blossom. Start by committing to do ONE kind thing for yourself each day of this week. Here’s some ideas:
- Write a little love note to yourself and tape it on your mirror
- Write yourself a full on love letter in your journal
- Apologize to yourself for being so dang hard on yourself. Set an intention to be more compassionate yourself.
- Ask yourself what you need today to feel more connected
- Put on some music and DANCE around your kitchen
- TAKE A BREAK and make yourself a cup of tea
- Place your hand on your heart and share 3 qualities that you really love about yourself
PERFECT “SELF” LOVE GIFT
Wearing a mala is the perfect reminder to continually come back to Self Love as a way of life. Women rarely buy gifts for ourselves. A beautiful necklace and / or bracelet to “marry” you to your own inner beauty and to make Self Love a priority.
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There’s no better day than today to decide to fall in love with YOU! Will you LOVE you today?