If you follow my work, you KNOW that I am painfully honest about my relationship with my son. You KNOW that I have transformed this relationship from distant, full of impatience and criticism to intimate, full of real authentic connection.
But what does it mean to be “close” to your children, your spouse, to another? What does it really mean?
Does it mean you never experience conflict?
Does it mean you agree on everything?
Does it mean things are always comfortable?
I didn’t feel close to my own mom, so rather than ask whether I feel close to my son, I’ve always asked whether HE feels close to me.
Whether your child is 2, 12 or 22, whether you are married or single, parent or non parent, our primary desire in this lifetime is to know that we are connected and matter.
To feel close and connected means that there is more than enough room in the relationship for both of you at any time.
Both of your idiosyncrasies, both of your big feelings, both of your desires, both of your opinions and both of your personalities!
When my son was young, there was mostly only room for one – for ME! When he would pull another child’s hair, there was only room for MY feelings about it. When I would get calls from his teacher saying that he couldn’t sit still in class, there was only room for MY feelings about it. When he was diagnosed with ADD, there was DEFINITELY only room for MY feelings about it. When he was having social issues, there was only room for MY feelings.
Often, when his desires were different from mine … i.e. he wanted a toy in a store and I didn’t want to buy it that day … he wanted to stay up past his bed time and I wanted him ASLEEP … he wanted to play a video game and I wished they didn’t even exist, there was only room for MY feelings, he wanted his driver’s license and I wanted him to wait until he was THIRTY … you get the picture!
It isn’t difficult to see that he didn’t feel close to me … at all!
How did I shift this?
My relationship transformed because I transformed.
How did I transform?
I realized that:
When there isn’t room for your own inner child within you, there can’t be room for your actual children – or anyone – around you. What you don’t heal within your own inner child, you will act out onto your actual children – and everyone else in your life. There’s now more than enough room in my relationship for my son, because I have learned to accept every aspect of MYSELF. Every dark place, every shamed, awkward place, every anxious, unsure, insecure, vulnerable, hurting and angry place within me.
And this is what I’m going to teach you in my new On Line Course
HEALING THE HEART OF THE INNER CHILD
- If you want to learn to accept every, single aspect of yourself
- If you want more space for both you and the other in your relationships
- If you want to be more connected
- If you want your child – and others – to feel more connected to YOU
- If you want more intimacy in ALL of your relationships
- IF YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE YOURSELF AS DIVINE
- IF YOU WANT TO EXPERIENCE YOUR CHILDREN – AND ALL THOSE AROUND YOU – AS DIVINE
- IF YOU WANT TO LIVE FROM YOUR DIVINITY
- If you want your life to be SACRED
- If you want your relationships to be SACRED
DON’T HESITATE! Please join us.
You’ll be glad you did!
YOUR CHILDREN – AND ALL THOSE AROUND YOU – WILL BE GLAD YOU DID!
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And remember, if I can do this in my relationship with my son, you can do this with your children, with every relationship in your life … and most of all … within yourself!